Karma… What goes around, comes around. It is said that in one form or another, at one time or another, in one life or another…. we will learn every lesson meant for us. So, if I insult or injure someone I will pay for that negative karma in another way or ways until I learn my lesson. Not only that, but if I hold on to anger and resentment, I am hoarding negativity. In these situations, I will not be able to escape the negative feelings, as they will show up in other people or situations UNTIL I learn the lesson and move on. Some people believe this cycle will continue through lifetimes until you complete your spiritual journey.
I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to go through a whole ‘nother lifetime just because I didn’t forgive someone for something they did mad years ago. I’m trying to get to Heaven where I know my Daddy is saving a seat for me.
I consider myself a very positive person. But recently I’ve been thinking about a specific instance that happened a few years ago when someone took advantage of someone I care deeply for. For the past few days, I haven’t been able to shake it. Which made me reflect on the karmic bank account and forgiveness. Hm, do I forgive them? I don’t think they realize exactly what they did, to be honest. So there is nothing to forgive. I am not mad but, I do look at them sideways… and THIS is the grey area.
When we are not holding on to anger and resentment, when we harbor no ill will, but we still look at them sideways… are we not past the injury? Have we not learned the lesson? Is negative energy still accumulating?
I feel like this grey area needs a name. Call it… I don’t know… Sideways Karma. Sideways Karma is when I’m looking at you sideways for something negative you did and you’re dealing with the karma attached to it. Sideways Karma is what happens when the injured person moves past the injurer and lesson but sees the injurer for who they really are– which is ultimately a work in progress. When someone does something to you, (hurt you, slander you, steal from you, etc), forgiveness is cool but it is incomplete without self-care. Self-care is the grey area, the sideways look, the ‘yeah, I forgive you but, I seeee you’.
Forgiveness + Self-care aka Sideways Karma does not harbor negative energy, rather it allows you to guard yourself against negative energy. Without Sideways Karma, we would continue to allow negative influences into our lives and give them the green light to repeat their destructive behavior.
For the most part, I honestly believe people are self-serving and you cannot take things personally. Keeping this in mind, it’s pretty easy to always forgive people. But, I’m going to keep it 100% real with you, as I always do… I still look at a few people sideways : )